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Do unto others as you would like others to do to you. Love your neighbor as yourself. These life principles sound easy enough right? These are more difficult to act on than to simply quote. I was raised with these two quotes. I was raised to treat others like I want to be treated or better yet how I thought I should be treated. There were times, though where I didn't feel like I was worth much and guess what, neither did anyone else. 

Many times in family mediation I encounter people who have low self esteem and these individuals don't treat others kindly because they don't think much about themselves. They don't think they deserve much and therefore they don't think others deserve much either. It's a shame because everyone IS wonderful. Period. End of story. No one was created perfect or better than anyone else. We are wonderful exactly how we are and the sooner we realize that we are great, we are loved and cherished, then we can begin to actually love others and treat others well because we love and accept who we are and we respect ourselves. 

If you were not loved as a child, how in the world can anyone expect you to know how to express love to someone else? What an unrealistic expectation! Only once you feel loved can you give love. 

Mediation is certainly not a place to experience the therapy that a lot of people need as they go through a divorce. Family divorce mediation, typically, takes place after couples have attended therapy. Family mediation though is a great place to express your feelings in a safe place and can be even better than therapy. In therapy you are expected to "share" your feelings in a respectful, calm way. I have conducted many mediations where feelings were expressed and calm and respectful were not on the menu. Mediation is a safe place to express how you feel so that then the legal paperwork can be completed. In my exit surveys that I email to the parties after they have attended mediation, I have been told that the session was better than any therapy because I created a safe environment to "let it all out". 

If you need a safe place to "let it all out" call us and allow us the opportunity to conduct your mediation session as we transition you to the next phase of your life. 

iChat Mediation invites you to come and learn more about having either your divorce conducted by one of our State Supreme Court Certified mediators or how you can become part of the most cutting edge virtual companies in the world. To learn more visit us online at http://www.ichatmediation.com or call us at 877-822-1479.

In the words of Lawton Chiles, “I didn’t come to stay, I came to make a difference.”