Protection

Protection in relationships can have many meanings depending on the stages of the relationship.

In the beginning, protection can mean protecting you heart from getting broken as you figure out if the person you are with is compatible with you. Protection can and should be involved in protecting your body when having sex. You don't want or need any surprise infections, diseases or a pregnancy. Protection at this stage unfortunately for some could also mean protecting yourself from abuse whether it be mental, verbal, emotional,  sexual or physical. And by the way……NOW is the time to get away from the abuser. No one deserves the abuse of others and if you are an abuser, you are simply an insecure bully. 

If you make it to the next stage and get married, protection still can be from unwanted pregnancy. It again could be from abuse, but it can also mean other things. Having the right education and job protects the material life that you and your spouse are accustomed too. Protection can also mean that you do not put yourself in questionable or compromising positions with others that could lead to a separation or divorce. Protection can be simply putting up boundaries in your life and not allowing others to take advantage of you. Don't always say yes. It is ok to say no. Protect your time. Time is one thing you will never get back. Some say time is money. You can make more money, time will never stop and you cannot make more. 

If all else fails and a divorce is pending, then it's time to really think about protection. First and foremost protect yourself from abuse. At this time there is a 99% chance that you will be verbally, mentally and/or emotionally abused. Also, protect your self financially. This goes for both the husband and wife. More recently I have witnessed what is known as marital dissipation/waste. This goes for both the husband and wife…..You should not do this. If you start taking marital assets and money or running up debt at the end, you will pay in the end. This is illegal. If you decide to empty bank accounts and leave the other destitute, YOU CANNOT DO THIS. What you may need to do though is to protect yourself against the other spouse if you think that he or she may do this to you. Here is an example of what you cannot do and then an example of what you could do:

You cannot empty the bank accounts and then spend money leaving the other with nothing and taking all for yourself. If you run up debt, you will be 100% liable for the entire amount and you will still have to give back 1/2 the money or assets you took.

You may take some money and place it in a designated account. You might live off it as you lived off of it when things were normal. Keep all receipts, bank account statements as you might need proof to show that there was no marital waste. 

Divorce is not easy but at iMediate Inc. our family divorce mediators are professionally trained to assist you in this difficult time. Once you make it through and you will make it to the other side, you are back to the beginning to start this cycle of protection all over again. 

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