Go ahead, fight in your relationship!

Are you in a relationship that is void of conflict? Do you and your significant other, whether a girlfriend, boyfriend, fiance or spouse never fight? If you don't fight, are you simply holding back to avoid conflict? Have you heard that if you fight a lot, then you'll split up or end up divorced? Research shows that couples that never fight are MORE likely to split. 

In a healthy relationship, both parties must retain their individuality. The man must have his life, his likes and his dislikes. He must have his own shows to watch, hobbies to do and work to go to. The woman must have her life, her likes and her dislikes. She must have her own shows to watch, hobbies to do and work to go to.  When these two individuals come together, the man will have his life, the woman will have hers and then they will create a life together. They should learn to compromise, but as individuals, there will still be differences. There WILL be arguments and there WILL be fights. Fight it out, but fight fair. So how do you do this?

What individuals must learn to do is to find a healthy and productive way to fight. Conflict is necessary and is good in order to move forward through issues in your relationship. NEVER attack the other person though. Avoid blaming, name-calling and degrading the other person. Rather, attack the issue. Respectfully disagree and voice your opinions but remember RESPECT the other person and their individuality and you will be respected even as you fight. Keeping your mouth shut and stuffing your feelings down will only lead to resentment and eventually YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL END!

Couples sometimes find that there are issues that they disagree on and they cannot resolve these issues on their own. When this happens, get a NEUTRAL third party to assist you (DO NOT ASK A FAMILY MEMBER OR FRIEND). Mediators, such as those here at iMediate Inc. are trained to help you not only when the relationship has failed, but we are here to help you resolve conflict so that YOU CAN STAY TOGETHER!!!!!

iChat Mediation invites you to come and learn more about having either your divorce conducted by one of our State Supreme Court Certified mediators or how you can become part of the most cutting edge virtual companies in the world. To learn more visit us online at http://www.ichatmediation.com or call us at 877-822-1479.

In the words of Lawton Chiles, “I didn’t come to stay, I came to make a difference.”